Monday, March 9, 2009

A Man Who Hits You Does Not Love You, Nor is He Worth Your Love

Oprah did a segment on the Rihanna / Chris Brown case, in which Gayle read out the details of the police report. I have, as I'm sure most of you have, been horrified that Rihanna would not only not press charges but intend to stay in the relationship. Horrified, but not surprised. Statistics say 1 out of 4 women in America is in an abusive relationship — and that is just based on reported cases.

A man who belittles you, abuses you verbally, is controlling, suspicious, and jealous, or in any way hurts you physically — even if you feel like you deserve it — does not love you. It is not your fault and you do deserve more and yes, there is someone out there for you who will love you for who you are, without making you feel worthless and hurting you emotionally and physically.

You must get out. Eventually, he will kill you.

And before then, you will spend many years unhappy, feeling worthless, powerless, and unlovable. You are none of those things. You are a beautiful, valuable human being. Do not let another person tell you anything different — it is simply not true. Reclaim your own power.

In the US, you can find people to help you at

National Domestic Violence Hotline
(Yes, it's domestic violence, even if you're not living together): — 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

SAFE has a resource list for worldwide help:



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Kaitlin said...

I absolutely agree. I was also horrified that she would stay with him. There is no way I would be staying in a realationship if someone did that to me. She needs to get out of it, for her safety.

Lydia said...

You got it right! She needs to walk away from that relationship. I hope that parents out there can use this as an opportunity to teach their girls (and boys) what NOT to do! Being rich and famous does NOT make you smart!!!

Alya said...

Its just depressing to learn that there are people out there who are rich, successful and also educated, but are still victims of domestic violence. It just goes to show that this is affects people of all types.

G.G. said...

I agree with you that the worst thing about this is that it sends such a bad message to all the other young women out there as to what they should do... I'm sick to my soul about this.

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my mom and i both agree shes in-SANE to take him back. he doesn't deserve a girl as good as rihanna, especially if he tries to abuse her.

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